Has anyone here heard of the book I Love Yous Are for White People by Lac Su? (see http://www.amazon.com/Love-Yous-Are-White-People/dp/0061543667 )?
"Instead the Aspie grandparent picks one grandchild as the 'ideal" and hunts for reasons to dislike the others."
...and if this grandparent's reason for picking this child as "ideal" is studying (especially math and science) more and making friends less than the others do, then the stereotype could just as easily be "Asian [Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Pakistani, whatever] grandparent" instead of "Aspie grandparent."
"The Aspie grandparent is the one that has to be encouraged to make a phone call to a grandchild on the occasion of a birthday."
...and if this grandparent does that quietly instead of going on and on and on about what s/he hates about this grandchild, then the stereotype could just as easily be "strong, silent type grandfather" instead of "Aspie grandfather"
Interesting how so much of the behavior we're explaining away as "undiagnosed Asperger's" has also been explained away as "part of Asian culture" (tells you to stop crying and study harder), "machismo" (doesn't show affection apart from trying to get laid, is cold to his wife outside of bed, etc.), "they thought it was OK then/they think it's OK there" (see all the stuff about racial slurs at http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2010/02/some-thoughts-on-intolerance.html ), arrogance in general (all those claims to be so superior to more average people), etc.
How many neurotypicals are getting away with treating other people badly in the name of "undiagnosed Asperger's" now that older excuses like "boys will be boys" are becoming less popular?
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Has anyone here heard of the book I Love Yous Are for White People by Lac Su? (see http://www.amazon.com/Love-Yous-Are-White-People/dp/0061543667 )?
"Instead the Aspie grandparent picks one grandchild as the 'ideal" and hunts for reasons to dislike the others."
...and if this grandparent's reason for picking this child as "ideal" is studying (especially math and science) more and making friends less than the others do, then the stereotype could just as easily be "Asian [Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Pakistani, whatever] grandparent" instead of "Aspie grandparent."
"The Aspie grandparent is the one that has to be encouraged to make a phone call to a grandchild on the occasion of a birthday."
...and if this grandparent does that quietly instead of going on and on and on about what s/he hates about this grandchild, then the stereotype could just as easily be "strong, silent type grandfather" instead of "Aspie grandfather"
Interesting how so much of the behavior we're explaining away as "undiagnosed Asperger's" has also been explained away as "part of Asian culture" (tells you to stop crying and study harder), "machismo" (doesn't show affection apart from trying to get laid, is cold to his wife outside of bed, etc.), "they thought it was OK then/they think it's OK there" (see all the stuff about racial slurs at http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com/2010/02/some-thoughts-on-intolerance.html ), arrogance in general (all those claims to be so superior to more average people), etc.
How many neurotypicals are getting away with treating other people badly in the name of "undiagnosed Asperger's" now that older excuses like "boys will be boys" are becoming less popular?
July 20, 2010 - 4:18amThis Comment
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