"...the problem remains stalled at the acknowledgement stage. So much so that wherever you find discussion of the UNIVERSAL challenges faced by Aspies and their spouses in marriages, you will invariably find aspie men (or their mothers) jumping in and shouting it down because it must be offensive or be unjustly placing blame if it names a certain neurological point of view as a common denominator in an identifiable set of relational difficulties..."
"...Aspies might find this review and the added comments offensive, but I find it as a breath of fresh air and completely agree with it. I am a wife of an aspie and this is EXACTLY what it is like. And I agree that Aspies need to stop fighting us here and any other boards, so we can finally find help for our side of the relationship. I am sorry you can't see all that we do to sacrifice for this relationship but that is why you have Aspergers, because you can't see it. I too have a son with aspergers, whom I love with all my heart. Doesn't change the fact that I feel like a single parent when it comes to leadership, scheduling, and the overall health of the family. It's sad to say, that when I need a hug, I have to go to bed and dream about one..."
"...One thing I have noticed with some on the higher functioning end of the spectrum is the response they have when NTs try to explain or show their side of the story. I don't think it's something they can avoid, there is something in that part of the neurology that cannot process the give and take, or share and feedback aspect of the other's explanations because it is perceived as an acute threat. Threatening, or at the very least there involves some form of rejection or contradiction..."
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Meanwhile, their comments remind me of this:
http://www.amazon.com/review/R2C0H6FUOZEC1M/ref=cm_cd_pg_pg2/184-6013652-6472931?ie=UTF8&cdPage=2&asin=1849058032&store=books#wasThisHelpful
"...the problem remains stalled at the acknowledgement stage. So much so that wherever you find discussion of the UNIVERSAL challenges faced by Aspies and their spouses in marriages, you will invariably find aspie men (or their mothers) jumping in and shouting it down because it must be offensive or be unjustly placing blame if it names a certain neurological point of view as a common denominator in an identifiable set of relational difficulties..."
http://www.amazon.com/review/R2C0H6FUOZEC1M/ref=cm_cd_pg_pg3/184-6013652-6472931?ie=UTF8&cdPage=3&asin=1849058032&store=books#wasThisHelpful
"...Aspies might find this review and the added comments offensive, but I find it as a breath of fresh air and completely agree with it. I am a wife of an aspie and this is EXACTLY what it is like. And I agree that Aspies need to stop fighting us here and any other boards, so we can finally find help for our side of the relationship. I am sorry you can't see all that we do to sacrifice for this relationship but that is why you have Aspergers, because you can't see it. I too have a son with aspergers, whom I love with all my heart. Doesn't change the fact that I feel like a single parent when it comes to leadership, scheduling, and the overall health of the family. It's sad to say, that when I need a hug, I have to go to bed and dream about one..."
"...One thing I have noticed with some on the higher functioning end of the spectrum is the response they have when NTs try to explain or show their side of the story. I don't think it's something they can avoid, there is something in that part of the neurology that cannot process the give and take, or share and feedback aspect of the other's explanations because it is perceived as an acute threat. Threatening, or at the very least there involves some form of rejection or contradiction..."
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