This is going to sound hateful, but as someone who has had to live with this my whole life... I could careless. You would like the explanation that, "You don't suffer from Aspergers. You suffer from other people!" I have given myself whole-heartedly to learning about this so I can eventually try to communicate with my mother. Do you think she is going to try to extend that courtesy? It'll be a cold day in hell, I'm sure. But do you understand how FRUSTRATING it is to constantly read people with AS blaming EVERYONE ELSE? Accept that you think differently, and that because of that, you (however unintentionally it may be) hurt others. That is completely unfair to say that my Asperger's mother suffers because of me. You sound like a completely cold-hearted jerk when you say things like that. But oh, wait. You have Asperger's. That is like a free pass. Cool. I think I have Asperger's too. I think I will just be hurtful and blame others because that is super convenient.
I get what you were trying to say... but that sounds completely awful to word it like that. That is putting blame on someone. And puts me in the situation where I continue to blame myself. Awesome.
I'm sorry that I may have gotten out of line for a minute there... but there are TWO sides to every story. Blame isn't placed anywhere. There is simply how I see it and how she sees it. You don't suffer from anyone. You suffer from Asperger's. Get it right. Stop generalizing. I am not "everyone else". I am me. You can't sit there and make accusations that I am not putting forth effort to understand.
Comment Reply
This is going to sound hateful, but as someone who has had to live with this my whole life... I could careless. You would like the explanation that, "You don't suffer from Aspergers. You suffer from other people!" I have given myself whole-heartedly to learning about this so I can eventually try to communicate with my mother. Do you think she is going to try to extend that courtesy? It'll be a cold day in hell, I'm sure. But do you understand how FRUSTRATING it is to constantly read people with AS blaming EVERYONE ELSE? Accept that you think differently, and that because of that, you (however unintentionally it may be) hurt others. That is completely unfair to say that my Asperger's mother suffers because of me. You sound like a completely cold-hearted jerk when you say things like that. But oh, wait. You have Asperger's. That is like a free pass. Cool. I think I have Asperger's too. I think I will just be hurtful and blame others because that is super convenient.
I get what you were trying to say... but that sounds completely awful to word it like that. That is putting blame on someone. And puts me in the situation where I continue to blame myself. Awesome.
I'm sorry that I may have gotten out of line for a minute there... but there are TWO sides to every story. Blame isn't placed anywhere. There is simply how I see it and how she sees it. You don't suffer from anyone. You suffer from Asperger's. Get it right. Stop generalizing. I am not "everyone else". I am me. You can't sit there and make accusations that I am not putting forth effort to understand.
May 16, 2012 - 8:35pmThis Comment
Reply