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my granddaughter is an asperg'er's child. when she was living with us for awhile and only about two, we built a brand new house, and she promptly painted and colored on the walls, causing much damage. each time my daughter badly punished her, only to have minette do it again. we were at our wit's end, not knowing what to do. i went online and looked up certain symptoms and found the term autistic matched alittle but not perfectly. slowly i found aspberger's symdrome.

there is no easy solution. really, medical personnel refused to even try to diagnose until older. so we had to slowly and patiently deal with her and be straight with her. now, at age 8, where before i would ask her what she did at school and she would say worriedly, "i don't remember", because we have made her aware that her brain acts differently like a person with dyxlexia, she makes an effort or writes down names and things or asks us to write it down. there is still not enough school participation even with the testing for learning disabilities, so you really have to insist on separate tutoring to teach them to read. they will be behind and be impatient with learning because it is so slow. the school now has decided to put her back one year and they have improvised her homework so that she is not completely out of her depth. each school is kindof at a loss with asperber's and you need to do alot of work to help them understand.

as they grow older, they are the brightest and alert to many things we are not. we call her "the finder" because she will think things out and find things we lost. people love to play with her, she has days of going off and we reel her in. you can make them aware that they need to tone it down, they are definitely single minded, and they will say things that they know that they are supposed to say but you are not sure they are really sinking them in. have them repeat them back and sometimes you will have to clap your hands to break a tangent. they mostly understand there is something wrong by this age and you need to speak to them honestly. maybe not all will sink in but explain it often when they look confused as to why they are not understanding.

as to when they get older, we are trying disability for her for a third time, they do not get the proper medical records for disability to be approved until later, and hopefully it will be all right so her medical needs and schooling and life in general will be provided for her. i hope this helps because this is what we have learned through wading through much ignorance and lack of knowledge in the medical profession even now. minette is harder to be realized as asperber because she is high functioning and she does not appear on the surface to have anything wrong. find a group support and a dr. who is an asperger background and possibly an asperger child. sometimes a dr. will go into this field to help his own child, i saw this in tn. min. also had herpes palsy and this was a problem because the state would not allow rehabilitation. you need to find this kind of a dr. also and collect all medical records from an expert. get ready right away to apply for disability at a later age, collecting all records, and start early. this will give them a future under disability to have some kind of a life.

linda bowman 919 537 8971 hm cell 919 259 2465

October 4, 2009 - 6:32pm

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