Thank you all for a very insightful and interesting thread! What brought me here is my similar situation. My partner and I have been together for 2 Years now and things have always been great between us sexually but in the last year he has been constantly rejecting me no matter what I do. Tried everything to spice it up- it worked for about a week then he went back to the same old never interested and never initiating person. Even If I send him a sexy text he replies with a total different subject as if I never mentioned it. So here is the clincher, he jerks off to porn all the time. We work different hours so he has ample alone time. Like everyone mentioned I have no issue with the actual masturbation- I have an issue that it's replacing me and all that other baggage. Before u all jump on me no I have not let myself go nor do we have other issues. Aside from this our relationship is perfect and very loving. It tears me apart that he does this. It's also like the actual minute I walk out the door he is on there. He says it's boredom but that is a bunch of b/s. How come on a rainy bored day he doesn't want to screw my brains out then?? Get what I'm saying. Also he wakes up in the middle of the night every now and then horny as hell and will last about a minute. Do u think he dreams about all the porn he watches and wakes up acting it out with me? The final straw was the other night I came on to him like always - sexy underwaer etc etc starting up and he just freezes and pretends to sleep. I get pissed off and chuck a tanty go sleep on the lounge. Wouldn't u know it his in bed jacking off to these slutty whores!!! I am very sexual and willing for anytime, anywhere so how do I change this? Like I said our relationship is perfect otherwise so leaving him isn't really an option as I don't think it's worth giving the rest up over this, but want others opinions as an outsider can usually see things a shit load clearer. Thanks for listening
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Thank you all for a very insightful and interesting thread! What brought me here is my similar situation. My partner and I have been together for 2 Years now and things have always been great between us sexually but in the last year he has been constantly rejecting me no matter what I do. Tried everything to spice it up- it worked for about a week then he went back to the same old never interested and never initiating person. Even If I send him a sexy text he replies with a total different subject as if I never mentioned it. So here is the clincher, he jerks off to porn all the time. We work different hours so he has ample alone time. Like everyone mentioned I have no issue with the actual masturbation- I have an issue that it's replacing me and all that other baggage. Before u all jump on me no I have not let myself go nor do we have other issues. Aside from this our relationship is perfect and very loving. It tears me apart that he does this. It's also like the actual minute I walk out the door he is on there. He says it's boredom but that is a bunch of b/s. How come on a rainy bored day he doesn't want to screw my brains out then?? Get what I'm saying. Also he wakes up in the middle of the night every now and then horny as hell and will last about a minute. Do u think he dreams about all the porn he watches and wakes up acting it out with me? The final straw was the other night I came on to him like always - sexy underwaer etc etc starting up and he just freezes and pretends to sleep. I get pissed off and chuck a tanty go sleep on the lounge. Wouldn't u know it his in bed jacking off to these slutty whores!!! I am very sexual and willing for anytime, anywhere so how do I change this? Like I said our relationship is perfect otherwise so leaving him isn't really an option as I don't think it's worth giving the rest up over this, but want others opinions as an outsider can usually see things a shit load clearer. Thanks for listening
February 3, 2010 - 9:35pmThis Comment
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