( I am a male, have the same problem. ) I have been living with my boyfriend for about 1 year, been together 2 years now, and the first year we had sex every single day almost. Then it gradually went down to 2 times a week, to 1 time every two weeks, to 1 time a month, sometimes more if I am lucky. After getting on this site, I have confidently approached him about it. ( I know hes not cheating on me seeing as we are together 24/7 ) I have gained 40 pounds since we started living together. I asked if that was the thing that was ruining the sex and he said well after awhile it becomes a routine and also the wieght thing has affected it. He is not as sexually attracted. He admitted it. He said he is not going anywhere he loves me a lot and thinks we are doing good in our relationship and that sex is really not to important to him, so in a way this has been an eye opener to me. I am not worried about how our relationship stands we will be okay, but it is motivation for me to lose weight so I can feel sexy and have a better sex life. There are good guys out there. Mine still loves me and will stay by my side, but he was honest and told me my weight has affected us. This communication has been good. I am not mad at him, but more motivated to be healthy, I know this situation may not apply to all of you, but i hope it helps someone. In a relationship it is bad to get comfortable, those little things you did to please eachother when you first got together need to keep happening. They help keep all aspects of a relathionship healthy.
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( I am a male, have the same problem. ) I have been living with my boyfriend for about 1 year, been together 2 years now, and the first year we had sex every single day almost. Then it gradually went down to 2 times a week, to 1 time every two weeks, to 1 time a month, sometimes more if I am lucky. After getting on this site, I have confidently approached him about it. ( I know hes not cheating on me seeing as we are together 24/7 ) I have gained 40 pounds since we started living together. I asked if that was the thing that was ruining the sex and he said well after awhile it becomes a routine and also the wieght thing has affected it. He is not as sexually attracted. He admitted it. He said he is not going anywhere he loves me a lot and thinks we are doing good in our relationship and that sex is really not to important to him, so in a way this has been an eye opener to me. I am not worried about how our relationship stands we will be okay, but it is motivation for me to lose weight so I can feel sexy and have a better sex life. There are good guys out there. Mine still loves me and will stay by my side, but he was honest and told me my weight has affected us. This communication has been good. I am not mad at him, but more motivated to be healthy, I know this situation may not apply to all of you, but i hope it helps someone. In a relationship it is bad to get comfortable, those little things you did to please eachother when you first got together need to keep happening. They help keep all aspects of a relathionship healthy.
January 20, 2011 - 9:23pmThis Comment
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