I was in this situation as well, although I was the one who didnt want to have sex with my boyfriend. Were no longer together, but we were highschool sweethearts I guess you could say. We dated for 5 years and at first I was extremly attracted to him. We were always intimate and we had a great sex life together. Over time, he became extremly controlling, jealous and was really manipulative. He really broke down my confidence to the point I didnt leave, ya I know sad but hey I learnt my lesson. Anways, after all these changes my sex drive drastically decreased as well. So I dont think its only that he CHEATED, more so, how is your relationship. Do you guys go out or stay home all the time, do you guys respect eachother, is there trust. All these things can affect sex drive. Also, something else that Ive experianced is that, while in a relationship and unhappy I lost my sex drive, and honestly when he asked I wasnt honest, I mean how can you be honest with someone and say your attracted to other people and dont want to have sex with your boyfriend. I know its low and unfair but its really difficult. Its all about being fully happy in a relationship because believe it or not, not ALL guys can just have sex to have sex, a lot of them need to feel geniune feelings of all around happiness. So basically, before you jump to the gun of HE CHEATED, really look into the relationship and find what might be not satisfying him. Also, DO NOT PRESSURE ANYONE TO HAVE SEX, it makes it MUCH worse! Ive been happy in a new relationship now for over a year and half and still having great sex.
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I was in this situation as well, although I was the one who didnt want to have sex with my boyfriend. Were no longer together, but we were highschool sweethearts I guess you could say. We dated for 5 years and at first I was extremly attracted to him. We were always intimate and we had a great sex life together. Over time, he became extremly controlling, jealous and was really manipulative. He really broke down my confidence to the point I didnt leave, ya I know sad but hey I learnt my lesson. Anways, after all these changes my sex drive drastically decreased as well. So I dont think its only that he CHEATED, more so, how is your relationship. Do you guys go out or stay home all the time, do you guys respect eachother, is there trust. All these things can affect sex drive. Also, something else that Ive experianced is that, while in a relationship and unhappy I lost my sex drive, and honestly when he asked I wasnt honest, I mean how can you be honest with someone and say your attracted to other people and dont want to have sex with your boyfriend. I know its low and unfair but its really difficult. Its all about being fully happy in a relationship because believe it or not, not ALL guys can just have sex to have sex, a lot of them need to feel geniune feelings of all around happiness. So basically, before you jump to the gun of HE CHEATED, really look into the relationship and find what might be not satisfying him. Also, DO NOT PRESSURE ANYONE TO HAVE SEX, it makes it MUCH worse! Ive been happy in a new relationship now for over a year and half and still having great sex.
January 7, 2011 - 8:45pmGood luck!
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