I don't know what to do anymore. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I am 23 and he is 25. When I met him I was a virgin, he had slept with 10+ girls since he was 14 (experienced to say the least). In the beginning after we had sex he couldn't get enough, doing it 2-4 times a day. Over time it slowed, which is understandable, but now I am lucky to get it once every 3-4 weeks. He says it is because he is stressed, or not feeling well, or any other excuse to not even bother to kiss me. He said that he is bored with sex because he has had too much in his lifetime. I know he isn't cheating and I love him. He loves me back and shows it in every way besides intimacy. He is the only one I have been with and now I have so much pent up that I go home alone and cry. It makes be angry and irritable and yet he sees it as me just changing from the person that he met when I get angry. I tried to curb the emotional and angry responses for a while but nothing changed. I have talked with him about this multiple times but he just doesn't want to talk. When I tried to make "a move" last night he said, "You don't have to come on so needy". Which resulted in me crying. I have never been much of an emotional person but the lack of sex is bringing me to tears. He keeps telling me to just wait and then it will come back but I cannot wait. I feel like I have tried everything from spicing it up to letting him have the reigns and nothing works. WHAT DO I DO!!!! I don't want to leave him, he is truly the love of my life, but I cant live without the physical connection. How can I get him to want me again?
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I don't know what to do anymore. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I am 23 and he is 25. When I met him I was a virgin, he had slept with 10+ girls since he was 14 (experienced to say the least). In the beginning after we had sex he couldn't get enough, doing it 2-4 times a day. Over time it slowed, which is understandable, but now I am lucky to get it once every 3-4 weeks. He says it is because he is stressed, or not feeling well, or any other excuse to not even bother to kiss me. He said that he is bored with sex because he has had too much in his lifetime. I know he isn't cheating and I love him. He loves me back and shows it in every way besides intimacy. He is the only one I have been with and now I have so much pent up that I go home alone and cry. It makes be angry and irritable and yet he sees it as me just changing from the person that he met when I get angry. I tried to curb the emotional and angry responses for a while but nothing changed. I have talked with him about this multiple times but he just doesn't want to talk. When I tried to make "a move" last night he said, "You don't have to come on so needy". Which resulted in me crying. I have never been much of an emotional person but the lack of sex is bringing me to tears. He keeps telling me to just wait and then it will come back but I cannot wait. I feel like I have tried everything from spicing it up to letting him have the reigns and nothing works. WHAT DO I DO!!!! I don't want to leave him, he is truly the love of my life, but I cant live without the physical connection. How can I get him to want me again?
December 28, 2010 - 1:15amThis Comment
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