I have a very simular issue. My bf and I have have been together for three years. I will admit we both met while still unhappily married. We had sex several times a wk and he seemed "kinky". Then we broke up after abt a mth. Several months later we got back together. This time we realized it was love. We would make love at least once a week-when we could get together. Then about a year into our relationship, it went from once a wk to once every two weeks to once a mth to once every two/three mths. I started getting upset. He works 6/7 days a week and at first I thought he was seeing someone else. But talking to others, they said when I am not around, I am all he talked about. Then I thought he self satisfied himself. But I do that too all the time and still want him. Then I thought he was gay. God everything went thru my mind. I even accused him of insest!! Also when we would have sex he would have to watch porn. That was my fault. I started as a spontainous spice to have fun, but then I got tired of that cause I felt like it was a "clutch" that I didn't turn him on. Not true he says. He holds me all and loves on me and even touches me. But gone is the kinkyness. Used to be he would take it out and ask me to give him oral sex (which is something he has yet to do to me). Now when I volunteer he refuses. The only time is when he needs help getting hard.
I hate to say, but I did try the cheating thing once before, for the oral sex and to get satisfied. But I didn't feel the emotional satisfaction with the other man. You see, it's more than orgasm to me. I was raped and molested as a child and teen, and it's hard for me to have orgasm through intercourse. I feel the need to make love to the one I love, to I guess, feel loved and forfilled. He doesn't understand.
I feel that he has ED, but too embarrassed to admit it. I know cause he starts talking nervously while trying to make love or starts joking or even singing. I get mad at him and tell him to concentrate on ME. Also he is older than me, and the fact that he is all the time working and staying up late. I stay up late as well, and in my 40s and STILL want it. I feel selfish but I can't help it. I love this man so much, but I don't know how long I can go without. After reading these posts, I now realize that I am not the only one.
I tried everything from wearing sexy clothes to even dabbing pheromone oil on me! I got now where I don't care what I look like anymore. Cause I know it isn't me cause I get other men wanting me. But I don't want anyone else but him.
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I have a very simular issue. My bf and I have have been together for three years. I will admit we both met while still unhappily married. We had sex several times a wk and he seemed "kinky". Then we broke up after abt a mth. Several months later we got back together. This time we realized it was love. We would make love at least once a week-when we could get together. Then about a year into our relationship, it went from once a wk to once every two weeks to once a mth to once every two/three mths. I started getting upset. He works 6/7 days a week and at first I thought he was seeing someone else. But talking to others, they said when I am not around, I am all he talked about. Then I thought he self satisfied himself. But I do that too all the time and still want him. Then I thought he was gay. God everything went thru my mind. I even accused him of insest!! Also when we would have sex he would have to watch porn. That was my fault. I started as a spontainous spice to have fun, but then I got tired of that cause I felt like it was a "clutch" that I didn't turn him on. Not true he says. He holds me all and loves on me and even touches me. But gone is the kinkyness. Used to be he would take it out and ask me to give him oral sex (which is something he has yet to do to me). Now when I volunteer he refuses. The only time is when he needs help getting hard.
December 27, 2010 - 1:08pmI hate to say, but I did try the cheating thing once before, for the oral sex and to get satisfied. But I didn't feel the emotional satisfaction with the other man. You see, it's more than orgasm to me. I was raped and molested as a child and teen, and it's hard for me to have orgasm through intercourse. I feel the need to make love to the one I love, to I guess, feel loved and forfilled. He doesn't understand.
I feel that he has ED, but too embarrassed to admit it. I know cause he starts talking nervously while trying to make love or starts joking or even singing. I get mad at him and tell him to concentrate on ME. Also he is older than me, and the fact that he is all the time working and staying up late. I stay up late as well, and in my 40s and STILL want it. I feel selfish but I can't help it. I love this man so much, but I don't know how long I can go without. After reading these posts, I now realize that I am not the only one.
I tried everything from wearing sexy clothes to even dabbing pheromone oil on me! I got now where I don't care what I look like anymore. Cause I know it isn't me cause I get other men wanting me. But I don't want anyone else but him.
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