I have this same problem, we were together a year, it was good, then it started going downhill, he ended up making out with his ex and breaking up with me. He later figured out she was just doing that to get back at him for breaking up with her. We got back together about 4 months later, and the sex was good again. It's been about 8 months since we got back together and now I'm lucky to get any once every month or two. When I mention it, he'll have sex with me, but it leaves me feeling like he's only doing it cause I complained and he wanted to shut me up. Whenever I try to talk to him about the issue, he just tells me that it's not me, that he loves me, and that he's just stressed out and tired. I understand him being stressed, his work is pretty stressful, and he's always tired cause he stays up playing video games all night. Sometimes I wonder if there's not somebody else and he's just afraid to say anything to me. The first time we were together, he lied to me a lot, I didn't know they were lies til we got back together and he admitted everything, so I know he's a decent liar. I wish he would talk to me, lately all he'll say, no matter what the question, is "I'm fine". I've started to feel I should just give up on the sex part of our relationship, but it's really making me feel depressed and undesirable. I'm at the point I don't know what to do. I love him and would like to be with him for a long time, I just wish he would open up to me about what the problem really is.
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I have this same problem, we were together a year, it was good, then it started going downhill, he ended up making out with his ex and breaking up with me. He later figured out she was just doing that to get back at him for breaking up with her. We got back together about 4 months later, and the sex was good again. It's been about 8 months since we got back together and now I'm lucky to get any once every month or two. When I mention it, he'll have sex with me, but it leaves me feeling like he's only doing it cause I complained and he wanted to shut me up. Whenever I try to talk to him about the issue, he just tells me that it's not me, that he loves me, and that he's just stressed out and tired. I understand him being stressed, his work is pretty stressful, and he's always tired cause he stays up playing video games all night. Sometimes I wonder if there's not somebody else and he's just afraid to say anything to me. The first time we were together, he lied to me a lot, I didn't know they were lies til we got back together and he admitted everything, so I know he's a decent liar. I wish he would talk to me, lately all he'll say, no matter what the question, is "I'm fine". I've started to feel I should just give up on the sex part of our relationship, but it's really making me feel depressed and undesirable. I'm at the point I don't know what to do. I love him and would like to be with him for a long time, I just wish he would open up to me about what the problem really is.
November 10, 2010 - 7:48amThis Comment
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