Depression can do more than affect your sex drive -- it can effectively kill it for a while. A person's sex drive is in large part governed by their hormones, and depression has the effect of shutting down those hormones. People who are depressed lose interest in things they used to love -- including sex.
And from what you say, if your boyfriend lost his dad and his job in the space of a few months, he is dealing with a LOT. Either one of those things could contribute to a depression; to have to deal with them both in a short time is huge.
Would your boyfriend consider therapy, or going to see a doctor about how he's feeling? It might help. Doesn't have to be a long-term thing, but if he's not feeling himself, there's a reason why.
And no, it's not that he doesn't fancy you, that he has a problem down there or that he's lazy. Hang in there, be supportive and the next time you too are talking about things, ask if he might see someone about his depression. OK?
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Anon,
Depression can do more than affect your sex drive -- it can effectively kill it for a while. A person's sex drive is in large part governed by their hormones, and depression has the effect of shutting down those hormones. People who are depressed lose interest in things they used to love -- including sex.
And from what you say, if your boyfriend lost his dad and his job in the space of a few months, he is dealing with a LOT. Either one of those things could contribute to a depression; to have to deal with them both in a short time is huge.
Would your boyfriend consider therapy, or going to see a doctor about how he's feeling? It might help. Doesn't have to be a long-term thing, but if he's not feeling himself, there's a reason why.
And no, it's not that he doesn't fancy you, that he has a problem down there or that he's lazy. Hang in there, be supportive and the next time you too are talking about things, ask if he might see someone about his depression. OK?
May 11, 2010 - 9:04amThis Comment
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