There is clearly a break of communication between the two of you and trying to talk is certainly important here. He says he is not ready for another baby? Is this why he says he doesn't want to have sex?
Have you tried other things besides sex? Try to be intimate in other ways that are not baby making intimacy? I think he would enjoy the 'him' time that you are giving him if he fears pregnancy. I think men tend to go through a period of adjustment when a child is brought into the world and the fear of another pregnancy might be deterring his intimacy.
In the end, he needs to open up to you and if he cares about you, he will certainly understand that you are feeling inadequate about his intimacy towards you. Be open and honest with him. Tell him you feel inadequate. I think most men don't recognize our quiet ways of telling them that we are hurt or upset although we believe they are HUGE SIGNALS.
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Hi girl1,
There is clearly a break of communication between the two of you and trying to talk is certainly important here. He says he is not ready for another baby? Is this why he says he doesn't want to have sex?
Have you tried other things besides sex? Try to be intimate in other ways that are not baby making intimacy? I think he would enjoy the 'him' time that you are giving him if he fears pregnancy. I think men tend to go through a period of adjustment when a child is brought into the world and the fear of another pregnancy might be deterring his intimacy.
In the end, he needs to open up to you and if he cares about you, he will certainly understand that you are feeling inadequate about his intimacy towards you. Be open and honest with him. Tell him you feel inadequate. I think most men don't recognize our quiet ways of telling them that we are hurt or upset although we believe they are HUGE SIGNALS.
I hope this helps, please keep us updated!
October 31, 2009 - 8:28amThis Comment
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