Oh how I wish I only knew what to tell you what you should do!
I have no clue! I am in the same position here as everyone else.
If I ever solved my own problem, trust me I'll let you women in on it.
I'll help you out...
You've heard people's opinions here are: you have a choice.
You can either leave and find a different man (though there is no 100% guarantee, you won't be faced with the same problems later on, or early on.)
You can stay and try to find solutions, however long that may take.
But my advice is if you do stay, please don't be resigned to do nothing about it. Try to always be looking out for the solution. But also, don't be so focused on the problem. Work on your relationship itself, which is the most important. Take care that your relationship is being tended to. To borrow from Jewel's song:
***
Love is a garden if you let it go.
It fades away before you know.
And love is a garden it needs help to grow.
Ours is starving but there's still hope.
Come on, baby, and I'll feed ya on kisses.
Come on, baby, let's make up for what we've been missing.
Come on, baby, baby, come home.
***
It's really upsetting--I know. But I think it upsets our man too. Don't you think?
I think as men and women, we are all looking for the "same" thing. They just deal with it differently. They clam up. They don't initiate. They are not feeling like having sex. Who knows why! Sex can be a complex thing. All I can say is, hang in there.
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Oh how I wish I only knew what to tell you what you should do!
August 18, 2009 - 8:13pmI have no clue! I am in the same position here as everyone else.
If I ever solved my own problem, trust me I'll let you women in on it.
I'll help you out...
You've heard people's opinions here are: you have a choice.
You can either leave and find a different man (though there is no 100% guarantee, you won't be faced with the same problems later on, or early on.)
You can stay and try to find solutions, however long that may take.
But my advice is if you do stay, please don't be resigned to do nothing about it. Try to always be looking out for the solution. But also, don't be so focused on the problem. Work on your relationship itself, which is the most important. Take care that your relationship is being tended to. To borrow from Jewel's song:
***
Love is a garden if you let it go.
It fades away before you know.
And love is a garden it needs help to grow.
Ours is starving but there's still hope.
Come on, baby, and I'll feed ya on kisses.
Come on, baby, let's make up for what we've been missing.
Come on, baby, baby, come home.
***
It's really upsetting--I know. But I think it upsets our man too. Don't you think?
I think as men and women, we are all looking for the "same" thing. They just deal with it differently. They clam up. They don't initiate. They are not feeling like having sex. Who knows why! Sex can be a complex thing. All I can say is, hang in there.
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