I'm completely sympathetic to your situation. I was in exactly the same position, at nearly the same time in my life (I was 30 when I got the surgery) when I realized I was NOT the only woman who lived with this. I had always been horrified of group shower arrangements--I was as terrified for other NORMAL women to see my breasts as I was for MEN to see them--and I felt that I was damaged goods and was less worthy than small-breasted, normal-shaped women. My fear now is that my daughter may inherit this and go through the same hell of self-castigation that I had to go through at her age. All the women in my family have always been large-busted EXCEPT ME, and my daughter, aged 14, appears to be small-busted, as well. If she's a NORMAL small-busted woman, that's absolutely fine. If she ever comes to me and says, "mom, my boobs are shaped funny and it makes me feel bad about myself" you can bet I'm taking her in when she turns 18 to talk to a doctor about it. I would not ask her about it, unless she ever gave me a hint that she felt something was wrong. I want her to be the one who decides whether whatever her development is, is acceptable to her.
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I'm completely sympathetic to your situation. I was in exactly the same position, at nearly the same time in my life (I was 30 when I got the surgery) when I realized I was NOT the only woman who lived with this. I had always been horrified of group shower arrangements--I was as terrified for other NORMAL women to see my breasts as I was for MEN to see them--and I felt that I was damaged goods and was less worthy than small-breasted, normal-shaped women. My fear now is that my daughter may inherit this and go through the same hell of self-castigation that I had to go through at her age. All the women in my family have always been large-busted EXCEPT ME, and my daughter, aged 14, appears to be small-busted, as well. If she's a NORMAL small-busted woman, that's absolutely fine. If she ever comes to me and says, "mom, my boobs are shaped funny and it makes me feel bad about myself" you can bet I'm taking her in when she turns 18 to talk to a doctor about it. I would not ask her about it, unless she ever gave me a hint that she felt something was wrong. I want her to be the one who decides whether whatever her development is, is acceptable to her.
February 13, 2010 - 5:27amThis Comment
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