Anon, just thought I'd check in and see how things are going for you and your girlfriend. You said you were planning to do the HPT on Sunday; I'm hoping that either she got her period or that the test was negative? Please update us and let us know how you both are doing.
I know the feeling you speak of when everything seems like it's going crazy all at once. But you know what? THOSE are the times when you can be the best boyfriend. It's easy to be a great boyfriend in the easy times, when things are going well and are not stressful. You sound like a really good guy and I am sure she appreciates having a good friend who is also her boyfriend.
Listen to her, as it sounds like you have been doing. Occasionally do something small just for her. Be there when she just needs someone to hug her and say "I'm so sorry" about her grandmother. And don't freak out. You can rise to this challenge, bit by bit, day by day.
Like Alysia said, this is a good opportunity to talk about what you would ever do if she became pregnant, so there's a plan in place. And if she ends up not being pregnant, it's also a good time to talk about your commitment to birth control -- condoms are good, as long as you're always consistent and use them correctly.
Take care, and do let us know how things are going for the two of you. I respect you a lot for coming here and writing to us about this.
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Anon, just thought I'd check in and see how things are going for you and your girlfriend. You said you were planning to do the HPT on Sunday; I'm hoping that either she got her period or that the test was negative? Please update us and let us know how you both are doing.
I know the feeling you speak of when everything seems like it's going crazy all at once. But you know what? THOSE are the times when you can be the best boyfriend. It's easy to be a great boyfriend in the easy times, when things are going well and are not stressful. You sound like a really good guy and I am sure she appreciates having a good friend who is also her boyfriend.
Listen to her, as it sounds like you have been doing. Occasionally do something small just for her. Be there when she just needs someone to hug her and say "I'm so sorry" about her grandmother. And don't freak out. You can rise to this challenge, bit by bit, day by day.
Like Alysia said, this is a good opportunity to talk about what you would ever do if she became pregnant, so there's a plan in place. And if she ends up not being pregnant, it's also a good time to talk about your commitment to birth control -- condoms are good, as long as you're always consistent and use them correctly.
Take care, and do let us know how things are going for the two of you. I respect you a lot for coming here and writing to us about this.
June 1, 2009 - 8:41amThis Comment
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