There is no excuse for a doctor who treats his or her patient like someone who doesn't need detailed information about what is going on in her body.
Don't be shy about finding a new doctor, now. Ask your friends if they have an ob/gyn that they like. And if they say they do, ask about how that ob/gyn acts with them: Do they get detailed information? Is the doctor's manner one of "I am busy, don't bother me?" Or is it, "I am very interested in you, what questions do you have?"
Same with friends in the workplace. Ask them if they have a doctor who freely shares information.
If you can't get a personal recommendation, search the web for ob/gyn offices within your area. Visit the doctors' web sites and see what they say. Very often, the web sites reflect the attitude of the office.
Call your old doctor's office and ask for a copy of your medical records. You can deal with the front office, you don't have to talk to your doctor. If they ask, just tell them you're getting a second opinion (which is true). Doctors are accustomed to this; it happens all the time. Get your records and make an appointment with the new doctor. Take your records with you when you go, and talk about this issue from the very beginning.
Especially since you are beginning a new marriage soon and thinking about planning the future, you need a doctor who treats you like a smart, thoughtful adult with important questions. Don't stop until you find it.
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Anon,
Plain and simple: You need a new doctor.
There is no excuse for a doctor who treats his or her patient like someone who doesn't need detailed information about what is going on in her body.
Don't be shy about finding a new doctor, now. Ask your friends if they have an ob/gyn that they like. And if they say they do, ask about how that ob/gyn acts with them: Do they get detailed information? Is the doctor's manner one of "I am busy, don't bother me?" Or is it, "I am very interested in you, what questions do you have?"
Same with friends in the workplace. Ask them if they have a doctor who freely shares information.
If you can't get a personal recommendation, search the web for ob/gyn offices within your area. Visit the doctors' web sites and see what they say. Very often, the web sites reflect the attitude of the office.
Call your old doctor's office and ask for a copy of your medical records. You can deal with the front office, you don't have to talk to your doctor. If they ask, just tell them you're getting a second opinion (which is true). Doctors are accustomed to this; it happens all the time. Get your records and make an appointment with the new doctor. Take your records with you when you go, and talk about this issue from the very beginning.
Especially since you are beginning a new marriage soon and thinking about planning the future, you need a doctor who treats you like a smart, thoughtful adult with important questions. Don't stop until you find it.
Promise?
December 11, 2009 - 10:03amThis Comment
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