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Can i get pregnant without deep penetration?

By July 9, 2009 - 4:55am
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Hi, I'm 23 years old lady and I'm still a virgin. I have a bf and we've been together for more than 4 years. We never had 'real' penetration or sexual intercourse (saving it for the marriage). But today we made out and he only put his tip into me (only like half an inch to an inch) but did not cum in me. I am just a little concerned and went online to search for answers, and some people even mentioned that with what i've done, i'm actually not a virgin anymore! but no pain no blood flow happened.

Anyway, my question is, will i get pregnant this way? isit really true that if sperm was only near the vagina, i will get pregnant?

only supportive and real answers please.. i know i shud've used contraception, but it was our first time, and we didn't really planned for it to happen.


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Plz advice... ASAP

July 15, 2010 - 12:43pm

Hi. Thank you for your response. But I really want to know if i could pregnant while im still a virgin?... i hardly play sports ... and i dont aswell recall getting into any such accidents in which there might be a possibility of tearing my hymen. Just nearly a week ago i was with my boyfriend, it was quite unplanned but we slightly got carried away and he was rubbing his penis over my vagina. He did not ejaculate but there may be a possibility of him Pre-coming.
Do you think there is a possibility of me getting pregnant while my hymen is still intact?

July 15, 2010 - 9:35am
(reply to Jeniffer)

Hi Jeniffer,

Yes, there is a possibility of becoming pregnant while your hymen is still intact. Women's hymens have different levels of being "intact", and as such, the vaginal opening can be wide enough for a penis to be inserted while the hymen is still "intact". Also, if your hymen is no longer intact after playing sports, this does not increase your risk of pregnancy.

In other words: your hymen does not have anything to do with your chances of becoming pregnant.

In order to have a possibility of pregnancy, your boyfriend's sperm would need to be on/near/inside your vagina. If your boyfriend ejaculates anywhere on/near/inside your vagina without protection, there is a possibility of pregnancy. Your hymen may or may not be intact; it is irrelevant...what is relevant is the sexual activity.

Does that all make sense?

When a man's penis becomes erect, there is fluid called "pre-ejaculatory fluid" on the tip. Just a few drops. Most of the time, this fluid does not contain any sperm, but there is a chance that it could. There is also a chance that your boyfriend ejaculates without meaning to, and he may not be able to move physically away from your vagina quick enough (depending on the position you two are in), and I would hate for you to be worried in the future.

To have the most fun, be intimate with your boyfriend, and not worry about possible pregnancy...the most reliable and "safer" choice would to be for him to wear a condom, even if you aren't having sex. That way, you two are able to rub genitals without fear of pregnancy.

Hope that helps...please let us know if you have any additional questions.

July 15, 2010 - 1:48pm

Hi again ppl. I have been getting a few emails requesting update about wat happened to me w regard to this post. I am really sorry for not replying earlier as I was really really busy. So sorry.

Anyway I did not get pregnant through this incident . However I really so not condone such act. I really hope readers take this as a lesson n tell yourself to be much much more careful and use protection if u r really trying to do something involving your private parts in close quarters as u really can't guarantee wat may happen.

Anyway I hope this helps and answer many queries :) email if u need more info or help n support

Love, xxx

July 15, 2010 - 12:11am
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Anonymous (reply to uniquenezz)

I am glad that you started this forum! It has helped many of us! :)

May 25, 2012 - 7:44pm
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Anonymous (reply to uniquenezz)

ok so me and my bf were messing round and he only used his fingers. i started bleeding alot. it stopped after he stopped. We tried it again and i started bleeding again. Did he break my hymen! people keep telling me no he didnt but i just want to be sure.

February 17, 2011 - 6:17pm
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Please someone help me, I'm really scared.
My boyfriend put his tip inside me using a condom BUT before that I had gotten it wrong and put it backwards to then put it correctly. He stayed inside me less than 5 seconds AND NEVER CAME
We've been grinding a lot after that with clothes on, but I'm really scared.

July 13, 2010 - 10:18pm
(reply to Anonymous)

Okay, so he had a condom on but not quite right but he wasn't in all the way and didn't ejaculate? If I got that right, then you cannot become pregnant from that interaction.

Since you are "grinding" a lot, I suggest you decide what kind of birth control you want to use long term and start using it now so when the moment gets the better of you again, you will not be in fear of being pregnant. If you go to a Planned Parenthood http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ or your health care provider, you can get the sex education you need along with help in deciding what kind of birth control is best for you and your situation.

Stop worrying now, take control of your sex life, and good luck. Thank you for writing.

July 14, 2010 - 6:38am
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I messaged her already, and I haven't got a reply from her. anyway I have the same situation with the author.. my boyfriend inserted the tip only for about seconds then pulled out immediately bcos i was really scared. we're both 17. after it happened I stopped leaking white fluid in my vagina or in my underwear bcos before that I was leaking with white fluids... am I pregnant? help please

July 12, 2010 - 4:59pm
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Hi Anonymous,

If she doesn't reply to you here you may also private message her by clicking on her name and that way she will get an e-mail. I hope she responds. Please share the response here also.

July 11, 2010 - 8:31am
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