You need to CHOOSE to stop "begging for him to love me and want me". It is going to make you depressed and miserable, and gives him all of the power.
I agree: it is sad that he does not want to be with you on New Year's Eve, and would rather be with his friends. You know what? That is his choice, and then YOU have a choice to make. You don't have to make it at this time, since you are pregnant and going through so much already, but he is showing you what type of man he is, and what type of relationship he is willing to provide. It is too bad that he is not more mature and able to be in a healthy relationship with you, but YOU have lots and lots of options.
YOU can decide to go out with your friends for New Year's Eve. You do not have to be alone; that is your choice.
If you do not have friends to go out with, that is perhaps a great New Year's Resolution: make some mom friends! Join a Mom's Group nearby, and you may want to see if there are any mom's groups for non-married or non-traditional families. You can look on meetup.com to begin your search.
He is undoubtedly making poor choices right now, and you can use this information to become better informed at what type of person he is. You do not need to take his choices personally, and take them on as a reflection of you. So, he does not want to go out with you. That is a poor choice on his part. Many other people WOULD like to go out with you, and you can make an effort to seek out those people who bring you joy. If this person is not bringing you joy, YOU can choose not to be around him....why would anyone "beg" for someone to be around them when they make them miserable?! He is showing you his true colors, and you can just begin taking note...and eventually choosing if this person is the right person for you long-term. This person can be in your life as the father of your children, but may not be the right person in your life long-term as the one person who brings you joy and a healthy relationship. You have all the power of your life, and you can begin making decisions in your best interest..independent of anyone else in your life!
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You need to CHOOSE to stop "begging for him to love me and want me". It is going to make you depressed and miserable, and gives him all of the power.
I agree: it is sad that he does not want to be with you on New Year's Eve, and would rather be with his friends. You know what? That is his choice, and then YOU have a choice to make. You don't have to make it at this time, since you are pregnant and going through so much already, but he is showing you what type of man he is, and what type of relationship he is willing to provide. It is too bad that he is not more mature and able to be in a healthy relationship with you, but YOU have lots and lots of options.
YOU can decide to go out with your friends for New Year's Eve. You do not have to be alone; that is your choice.
If you do not have friends to go out with, that is perhaps a great New Year's Resolution: make some mom friends! Join a Mom's Group nearby, and you may want to see if there are any mom's groups for non-married or non-traditional families. You can look on meetup.com to begin your search.
He is undoubtedly making poor choices right now, and you can use this information to become better informed at what type of person he is. You do not need to take his choices personally, and take them on as a reflection of you. So, he does not want to go out with you. That is a poor choice on his part. Many other people WOULD like to go out with you, and you can make an effort to seek out those people who bring you joy. If this person is not bringing you joy, YOU can choose not to be around him....why would anyone "beg" for someone to be around them when they make them miserable?! He is showing you his true colors, and you can just begin taking note...and eventually choosing if this person is the right person for you long-term. This person can be in your life as the father of your children, but may not be the right person in your life long-term as the one person who brings you joy and a healthy relationship. You have all the power of your life, and you can begin making decisions in your best interest..independent of anyone else in your life!
December 26, 2010 - 9:15amThis Comment
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