Miriam Hinrichs tackles the topic of sexuality at 60 and if it's boring.
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Miriam Hinrichs:
My name is Miriam Hinrich. I just turned 60. I would like to talk about sexuality at this age. Many of my girlfriends at this age are really not interested in sex. Whoever I talk to, they would rather just forget about it. They would rather their husband did not approach them. They would rather just forget about the whole thing. It could be also a biological, natural cause because once you are past childbearing and your hormones decline, maybe you are not really interested in sex because you do not have the drive that maybe a male has because he has to continue planting his seed, but we stop producing our babies. So maybe biologically there is a difference there, but what I find that for intimacy in a marriage to work, sex is really very important. It is not the most important. But it is important to keep it going so that there is intimacy. They need to please each other because I know that by having sex, you know what works for your partner and you know what works for yourself.
If you are comfortable with your partner or your husband, you are much more vocal about what your needs are and you know how to please the other person. So that in itself, being so honest, creates the intimacy that with age maybe you lose a little bit and whatever works for you to keep that going, if it is telling daily stories, or watching daily movies, or having an extra glass of wine, or whatever it takes to keep it going, I am prepared to do it because I think it is very important. If you kind of sweep it under the carpet and you are not in the mood, and women are hardly ever in the mood anymore at that age, they really are not, unless they have a new lover. But I think that it is very important to keep going, and the way I keep it going with my husband is we decide on a date. We say, okay, we have date. Tonight we have a date. Then we know that tonight we are not going to watch the news with all the bad news on the television so we are going to have a romantic dinner, we are going to have candlelight, we are going to prepare mentally for it so it is not like, are you in the mood tonight? Oh, no? Okay, goodnight. So it is really a process, and I think that really works for us that we decide tonight we have a date, and so we prepare for it mentally. We prepare for it whatever it takes. If it is props. I know some people like dressing up, some people like walking with high heels, some people like whatever it takes. I think it is very important to just keep it going. I know what works for me and I know what works for my husband, and I just do the things that I know works for us. For other people it could be other things. But it is very important just to really keep it going. That is my advice.
sex over 60 Video
That Video is GREAT! I think women of all ages could learn how to be with their partner/husbands. I agree that you have to mentally decide to make the effort to please your partner and "do what it takes" to make things work. Otherwise the majic is lost and so many couples suffer with lack of intimacy
Thank you
Posted: Wed., May 7, 2008, 09:58 pm
Sexuality at 60
I wonder if the reason women loose interest in sex during their post menopausal years goes way back to our indegenious tribal days. In those days the elder women's roles in the tribe were to pass on all the wisdom and traditions acquired during their life journey to the youth of the tribe so the next generation would not make the same mistakes as their parents made. Maybe it's the natural part of who we are as women. I had great concerns about loosing my interest in sex when I had my ovaries removed but I glad to say I still am very interested in sex. Being a hormonally challenged women has one clear advantage, a little extra testosterone can go a long way in enhancing your sexual drive.
Be Well.
Posted: Thu., May 8, 2008, 03:18 am
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